Americans seem to be obsessed with dieting. Of course, we know that diets work in the short term, say 1-2 years. But the long term, (5 years is the gold standard for research), diets only work for 3% of the general population.
People concentrate so heavily on the correct amount of carbs, proteins, fiber, and fats. It can take the enjoyment out of eating and living.
Geneen Roth said, “For every diet, there is an equal and opposite binge.” Meaning, restriction leads to overeating.
Normal eaters overeat from time to time. Remember The Golden Girls and their monthly cheesecake gossip sessions?
But, compulsive overeating and binge eating are not a result of loving food too much. Usually, there is an emptiness that is not being filled. That is what is meant by a hungry mind.
When you want to use food in a destructive way, ask yourself, “What would I be feeling if I chose not to eat in this moment?” Sometimes you’ll be able to figure out what is going on. And other times, well, you will eat. You can tell yourself, “I look forward to the day when I can feel my feelings, until then I will give myself compassion.” You may not mean it the first 10 times, and that’s okay.
For me, I had a lack of joy in my life. Food was my only joy. I’m beginning to find other joys, to make food not glitter as much. My joy includes splashing at the pool, walking outside around the lake, yoga, writing, connecting with people on an intimate level.
Where do you find joy?
I blogged about feeding the Seven Hungers here.