As I’ve posted about before, I have been compulsively weighing myself. I talked about it with my helping professional. She suggested that I stand on the scale and say to myself, “This is how I get my self-worth.” Kinda shocking, right?
So…. I tried it! I weighed myself the very next day. I was very disappointed by the number. And I said to myself, “This is how I get my self-worth.”
I decided that…
1.) I don’t really care too much whether I’ve gained two or three pounds. In fact the average woman has a daily weight fluctuation of 2 to 6 lbs.
2.) Every time I get the urge to weigh myself, I need to just sit with those feelings, inquire within, and see what is REALLY going on. It’s just like with binge eating, if I sit through the feelings of wanting to binge, it WILL go away. I just need to be patient, brave, and curious.
Well, I had an opportunity to test this out yesterday. I was having a pretty great day, realizing that life is quite good for me right now. I felt *HAPPY*. So, naturally I thought, “I should weight myself!” I had pretty much convinced myself I was going to do that. Then I realized I needed to be with these feelings, and use them as a mirror to see what was going on in my inner world.
I don’t need a scale to confirm that I am happy. I can be happy at any size.
Happiness is quite separate from how much I weigh.
I started chuckling and thanked my inner world for delivering the much needed wisdom.
How do YOU unhook weight and happiness?